I hear this phrase coming out a lot from various friends, on social media and even some family members. I get WHY they are saying it, but my question to you, if you are saying the same thing over and over again, what is stating this doing for you? I understand the frustration and I know that it has changed our lives in so many ways. Maybe it is impacting you financially or maybe you got the virus or have family members who have it or worse know someone who has died from it. Your health and financial wellbeing are major areas of your life that you care deeply about and rely on. And when either of those or both feel threatened and at risk, it can be difficult to pivot to the positive. But it can be done with some deliberate focus and an unstoppable determination to thrive through this. Myself, my clients and many others are living proof of that!
So, my question to you is this … from a “mood” standpoint (what I would call “from an energetic standpoint” or “vibrational standpoint”), what does continuously expressing your frustration about this situation do for you? Do you benefit from stating that you are “done with it” (including being done with the 2020 year in general and wanting it to be over)? Does it stop the Coronavirus in its track and keep it from affecting you or others?
If when you say “I am SO done with this”, it brings you a feeling of relief and you feel better after you say it and then choose to let that frustration go … hey, then go for it! But from my experience of talking to the people who say this often, it is doing the exact opposite. Each time they say it, they feel sad, hopeless and disempowered to do anything that can help them. They see no light at the end of the tunnel in their future and they get more depressed.
And you know (if you are a student of the Law of Attraction and believe in the Mind-Body connection) what those constant negative feelings will do to your stress level AND what you will attract more of into your life as a result of feeling that way!
Now, unlike other Law of Attraction teachers, I am all for venting and letting out what you feel. Express yourself. Feel what you feel. We are all human and the goal IS NOT to be 100% happy every single moment of the day, 365 days of the year. Yes, I just said that – a Happiness Coach just said that! We are all human (yes, even yours truly) and feel a range of emotions (some negative, some positive) and all of it is perfectly fine. Don’t ever let anyone stifle what you feel. That’s not what this journey is about. That’s not what my teachings are here at Color My Life Happy Coaching. It’s about learning the life tools and techniques to thrive through times of adversity. It’s about becoming stronger and more true to ourselves as a result of those bumps in the road we face.
So, after you vent, maybe even curse (saying those curse words out loud can definitely bring some relief), you need to stop telling the story of frustration and how terrible it is that you can’t do what you used to do.
That disempowering story that you tell over and over again will only make you feel like crap
and will definitely hinder your ability to thrive through this unprecedented time we are living in.
Choose to see what you are still blessed to have. And there is always something to be grateful for … always. On the most basic level, if you woke up this morning, if you are reading this blog post – you are blessed in many ways!
There is so much “contrast” swirling around our world right now. How we choose to navigate that contrast is what will impact how we feel on this journey of life. And I don’t know about you, but I want to feel as good as possible, despite what’s happening in this country right now. And let me make myself very clear … “feeling good” means something different to each person. And “feeling good” is different depending on the day. One day, it might feel good for you to vent (IF YOU ARE ACTUALLY FEELING RELIEF WHEN YOU DO IT). Another day, “feeling good” may be where you start your day off with going on a rampage of appreciation for what you do have or writing in your gratitude journal. “Feeling good” could be standing up for yourself and having boundaries in your relationships, where you don’t allow loved ones to tell you how you should feel or take advantage of your kindness. “Feeling good” could be choosing to surround yourself with the stories where people are being kinder during this time of contrast OR where you take an action step that makes you feel good like standing up for others who have been pushed down by society way too long. For instance, the Black Lives Matter movement and all of us that are white and privileged who are standing up and speaking up for our black and brown brothers and sisters can feel VERY GOOD – it’s empowering! Often contrast can bring great clarity and also pave the way for a better future, where equality and justice for all is not just a saying, but it is truly a way of living!
So, instead of saying “I’m done with this” and beating the drum of why the Coronavirus sucks,
decide that you are going to thrive through this
before you see any proof of that!
Tell the story of what IS working in your life. Appreciate the blessing that you do have (from loved ones in your life to material wealth to just a roof over your head). Believe in a better future. See in your mind’s eye the future that you desire to have and know that you CAN have that, despite what we are all going through. Leveraging the power that you have right here right now, by choosing to embrace a new mindset, by choosing to think new thoughts, by choosing to respond in a way that brings you relief on a regular basis – that’s where profound positive change will happen in your life!
And if after reading this blog post, you still want to express “I’m done with this” and say it often and every single day, go for it! I am not trying to tell you what to say or how to live your life. I am offering a new way of responding to this adversity … one that will benefit you in the future and bring you some sense of peace in this precious present moment during this global pandemic!
Wishing you a Lovin’ Life rest of the day, where you embrace an attitude that nourishes your mind, body and soul!
